While that will always hold true... Make sure you help him build his individual relationships with everyone else in his life...
Starting with the most important one
The Dad:
This will be one of his most solid bonds... The one that will define his strength as a person... As well as his sensitive side... His dad will not just be his 'my daddy strongest' but will also teach him how to treat women...
So help them build that relationship... Help them nurture it and teach them both to have a mode of communication minus you.
I have seen most mums act as a in between to the fathers and the kids... And I don't think that's a good idea... Don't instill a sense of fear for the dad or make him out to be a strict person.. You play the bad cop... After all the dad's time with the kid is so limited since he is off to work everyday and back late... So let the time they have be of fun and excitement.
Let them do things that you don't do with the kid...
Like Aadi and Siddy have thier own little game time.... Aadi gives him truck rides and they play with the cars post dinner... And most importantly Aadi reads to him... That's one of my favourite daddy baby moments.... And very rarely do I do these things with Siddy... I want them to be 'their' thing... And I want him to know that...
Of course the dad and child bond is as eternal as the mom and child bond... But somehow I have seen most moms don't end up encouraging
it too much... Or most dads don't try that hard... Yes changing a diaper isn't the easiest thing for a dad... But if the mom had some patience and let the dad fiddle with it a little and try to get it right, he will... Instead I've seen most moms get irritated and do it themselves...
So a little patience and lots of encouragement.., and watch that amazing bond get stronger.
His grandparents:
Oh how he loves his 'Neneh' and how she loves him back.. The days she goes out he walks into her room looking for her saying 'neneh Neneh' it's just too cute! And he loves all her man handling and funny sounds... He learns to sit and watch the rain with her... He learns about all kinds of music with her... things I can never teach...
He looks at the laptop and says ' Dada dada' and wants me to FaceTime Aadi's parents... Every time I take a selfie of him and me he thinks we are going to FaceTime and gets soooooo excited!!!
And how he performs for them... He will do all his new sounds and dances and noises on cue and loves watching them laugh!! He loves doing ' how does dadu do maalish? How does dadu do excercise?!!! How does dadi laugh?!!!'
And recently he has taken to taking my phone and kissing them non stop while we are chatting!!!
And when he sees Dadima, he puts his arms out so as to tell her to pick him up... The heartbreaker that he is!!!
He even asks for Puran Chacha...he says 'Chacha' and when he comes on the screen... His smile is something to see... His whole face lights up and immediately he does 'satsriakal'!!!
I make sure once in two days no matter what... I will call his dadi and dadu and Dadima... I want him to know their faces their voices... I want the distance to mean nothing to him... I want him to know them like we are still staying with them...
His mamu, mami and tau.....
His love story with his mamu is a whole other story... His love for bikes is deeply connected to his mamu.,.. So every time and bike goes by.. He'll start calling out to his mamu....!! Sometimes even randomly he'll say mamu mamu!!!
He took his time with his Mami... I remember earlier every time she would call out to him he would run to his mamu... At restaurants when Siddy would walk around and his Mami would go behind him, his mamu would follow... One day I told him not to go... I told him that only if the two are left alone will he start to trust her.. Start to be ok with her.. And voila.. It has worked!!! He happily stays with her now....
His tau is his ticket to the east... He loves hearing all his funny accents.. The way he talks in his fake Chinese!!! He connects that with him now... And it's too cute!!
And everyone else he meets.. Like my friends who come over often... He loves his vihal Masi.., and gives her the biggest smile ever... He loves his Hrishi mamu when he comes visiting...
He even shares a great bond with our maids son who is home everyday for sometime.., the two of them play and run around...
When the grocer comes home... He loves giving them money and taking the change from them... These are small relations but they make him feel so good so grown up and so connected with the people of the world...
So really encourage it ... Each kid is different.., they will react differently to people... But I think if you encourage them at this small age to be people friendly they will grow up with a great deal of self confidence... :)
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