Tuesday 8 September 2015

Things I know for sure...

Things I know for sure...that I would love for siddy to know: 

1.Family is the most important... Everyone in your family is different, some may be nuts, some infuriating, some funny, some lovable.. But how ever they are, they are the people who will have your back no matter what.... 

2.Being fit makes you feel confident, being the opposite makes you feel the opposite!! I'm not saying you have to be skinny... Nope, having a damaging body image and pushing yourself to get thin is not the solution... Fit for me is having a good stamina.. Being able to climb mountains, run in marathons, play with your kid without getting breathless.. And yes it doesn't harm one to have a flat-ish tummy... Clothes do look better and you do feel better as well ...  You have to stop killing yourself but don't give up on yourself either...

3.Friends you made in or before your early twenties will last forever... The ones who've known you when you were a silly kid and have watched you grow into a sillier person will always stand by you! 

4. Patience is something I've still not mastered!! Especially with people... Slow dumb people! No but seriously... It's important to be patient with people.. More like to give them a chance... Because at the end of the day each one has had a different journey and has reached this point in life using a different path.. So you have to learn to respect that... Or else you might just miss out on getting to know some awesome people..

5. You will feel like giving it all up at least twice a year... Work relationships life everything.... The trick is to weed out what didn't work for you.. Remove the toxic people the toxic thoughts... Make a drastic change once every year... From something small to something big.. Change homes or shift jobs, get a new dress or hair cut.. Join a class in something you never would... Anything to shake things up a little.. It will help you realise what you really want to change and what you are ok with... 

6. Put being happy as your topmost priority... Work money friends family deadlines commitments will all fall into place...just let your core be happy... Even when things get tough and you feel like nothing is worth nothing... Especially then actually, dig deep into your core and keep it happy...

7. Travel is very important ... Not because everyone is doing it, not because it's cool to do it... But because it's a waste of a good healthy life to not see the world and everything it has to offer... The things you will experience cannot be compared to anything else... 

8. Help others... And be selfish..! It's one and the same.. When you help someone you will feel a part of you grow, a part of you expand... So for your own happiness ... If nothing else...Help others!!!! 

9. Read a lot... Books of every kind... Every genre.. Every size... Don't get stuck to just thrillers or just self help.. Sometimes you can learn something valuable from a very simple story book... 

10. Keep your mind calm always... I have the worst temper ever.. The slightest thing sets me off.. But over the years I have worked very hard to keep calm.. To take a deep breath.. To let things go... A calm kind mind will always help you think better, make smarter choices, learn more.... 

And 11. Love more... Love with your whole heart and soul... Don't love based on what you think you will get in return.. Love because that's what you want.. When you can feel that kind of deep soul wrenching stomach hurting love.. Love more.... 



Wednesday 2 September 2015

Kids who go down to play!

The sound of kids playing meant nothing to me a few years ago.... I didn't care for it at all... in fact there were days i would hate it... but today... every time i hear this little squeal, this little laugh... i run to my window... just to see his tiny little face scrunched up in laughter... or him running (read hopping) behind all the other kids....

he loves going down to play... he gets lazy about it before he actually goes (gone on his mum there i think!!!) he fights it everyday....

But once he's down... he runs around and shouts in glee!!!

And going down and playing is really something i encourage... not just for my sanity... but for him..

He gets some fresh air... he gets to really use his body... he gets to meet and interact with other kids of various ages ....

He runs behind the older boys.. They hi fi and fist bump him... he sits and chats with the little girls, makes them giggle... plays with Preeti, his nanny...

He gets to meet all the doggies who come for their evening walk.. he gets to play with sticks and make up stories about the forest like mangrove in front of our house...

He really gets to experience a sense of freedom and being young like nothing else... We are blessed with having a house which is the last and only building in a dead end... we have no cars coming there really and the kids can all ride their bikes on the road (with adult supervision of course)

I wasn't a very outdoorsy kinda girl.. I'm still not... camping and mountains aren't really my thing... I'm more of a beach bum... never move kinda girl... i remember my brother used to be out all day playing with the kids in the area... running, skating, bicycling... i on the other hand spent my days in my room pretending to be a dancer or a cook or a magician and all sorts of other strange and funny things.... If you ever saw me out it was because my mum had thrown me out...

And i don't want that for siddy at all... being a boy, i have a feeling he might have way too much energy to stay home, but still i really hope he loves being out...

Luckily Aadi was a very run around, play basketball cricket kind of guy.... he loved cycling and playing with the boys... so hopefully siddy will get it from him....!

But till he starts actually playing games... I will enjoy standing near the window and watch him hop around the other kids... enjoying himself...!

Funny Story 01:

His bike is kinda big for him to be able to peddle... his feet reach, but he can't actually peddle (mum, don't you dare say anything about this bike)

anyhow... point is he loves this bike, and it has an arm rest... So what he does is he sits back with his arms well rested while Preeti well, pushes him around!!

its hilarious how all the other nannies tell me "your son sits like one king and gets pushed around"!!!!!

ha ha ha ha!!

Funny story 02:

He has this blue ball that all the kids seem to like a lot... so Preeti told me, the other day while he was on his cycle. the big boys took the ball and started playing foot ball.. when he saw them he got off the cycle and went to them to play, but because they were really kicking the ball around, they told him to stand back, the genuinely didn't want him to get hurt... what does mister do?

He picks up his ball, frowns and tells Preeti " lets go home" and he actually came up!!!!

Hilaroius no?!!

Its good... for all of you who have met siddy know he's very soft with people, almost gets bullied around... so its good he's learning to be assertive... and just to be nice, i sent a box of popcorn down for all the kids the next day... so he learnt to share as well!!!

So you see, going down and playing is good... for everyone!!!!!!