Thursday 22 January 2015

The Tell Tale Kid!

I had a friend over today and we were working on something important... But my mum being my mum insisted I look after the boiling rice on the gas in the middle of it all...

So thinking I'm super girl I agree.... 

I put on the gas at low keep a glass of water rest next to it... Come out give siddy the iPad so I can work (go ahead judge me!!!!) and we start working... 

At one point I go into the kitchen stir the rice check the water come back out... Give my darling son a big hug and kiss and get back to work... 

This time we really get into it... We're trying something new.. We are excited... We are loving what we are doing.. When suddenly I hear sizzling... 

Damn... I run in saying "the rice is burnt... The rice is burnt" 

So behind me siddy keeps saying it too... 

The rice didn't burn... It was ok.. But for th next ten minutes he kept saying 

" neneh, the rice is burnt...  I want more rice" !!!!

Ten minutes... On loop.........

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Tell tale kid....



Sunday 18 January 2015

Sigh of relief!

That sigh of relief you take when you shut the door on your kid and hubby as they leave for work and school!!!!!! 

Mornings are mental... Mornings with a baby are super mental... And I'm the most non morning person ever.... 

Wake up make breakfast for hubby, get milk organised for pudding... Try to have a cup of coffee in between making the pudding have his milk ( trying to wean him off the bottle is just an added topping!) then try to feed him an egg while he stares out the window waiting for the trucks, make oats for hubby make pudding's snack, give pudding a bath and get him dressed while he runs around on the bed threatening to fall down... Put the socks and shoes, comb his hair which he messes up himself in seconds... Pack his bag, put hubby's box of oats in his bag... And pack off the two for the day!!!! 

It doesn't seem like much I know, I'm sure most women do more... Like make a full meal for the hubby's 'tiffin' and make a fresh snack for the kid (I do biscuits and chips and somedays paranthas) because he has either an egg or a banana before leaving (look at me justifying my choice of snacks!!!) but for me pre coffee this is all too much to handle... And even if I have my cup of coffee, its usually in breaks by the end of which its just a cold glass of coffee flavoured milk !!

So everytime I shut the door after smiling and waving at my adorable men... I breathe this long sigh of relief... And then I sit for five minutes doing nothing... Well today I wrote this post but usually I try to get those five minutes of just staring at the wall!!!! 

Because that is just the beginning of the day!!! 




Sunday 11 January 2015

Learning Languages....

So recently I've been reading on the pros and cons of introducing a number of languages to the baby...

Some say it's great because he picks a bit of each... Some say it's not good because he gets confused and mixes them all up...

Here's an incident that took place a few nights ago...

Siddy was sitting on his little truck... We were watching House... When suddenly he looks at papa dear and says 

"Papa thaabi" 

It was in his adorable lisp so we actually weren't getting what he was saying...

So Aadi kept saying "what baby? What do you want?" 

And he kept saying "thaabi" in varying tones of voice... His little eyebrows raising more each time he has to repeat the word!!! 

Finally he gets so annoyed with us and scrunches his nose, frowns and says 

"papa key" !!!!!!!! 

Apparently we are learning languages from a 23 month old!!!!


Saturday 10 January 2015

The paediatrician's waiting room...

These days the waiting room of a peadiatrician's clinic resembles a small nursery or day care center .. Lots of books for all ages, puppets, building blocks, the tiny slide and see saw... Animal stickers all over the walls (giraffes are a big favorite), some even have the space marked out with little fences... It's adorable!

The long wait seems almost bearable till you start seeing a kid cough on the slide.... Or sneeze on the building blocks or worse still wipe her nose and with snort smeared hands digs into the pile of toys.... 

You can't move your kid away because by now he's fully engrossed in the toys... Interested in playing with one or two kids even.... 

Also you don't want to look like the psycho mum pulling out wet wipes and frantically wiping your kids hands in front of everyone.. 

Because then they look at you with this disapproving look thinking you disapprove of their germ carrying kids... 

Ummmmmmm......I do ... Because clearly you don't seem to have a problem with your kid spreading all his sickly germs over all the toys... 

What's worse is if your kid is fine and you are simply there for a vaccination...aaaarrrggghjh!!

The last time we took bumling, I gave this mother the death stare for not berating her kid for putting a building block in her mouth and then throwing it back into the box.... The mother was unfazed people...she really didn't care.... 

And when I try to discipline these people i actually getting really heated up.. No literally, my palms get hot because I get so angry... So usually I avoid public confrontations...

But when it comes to siddy it's really tough to be quiet... And I also don't want to create a scene.. 

So here is my solution:
I have decided to carry two books and maybe two small cars for him when we go next to the doctor.. That way he doesn't have to touch the toys there and since he has started his " it's mine" tantrum for all his toys hopefully he won't share...!!!! 

And for once I'll be ok with that! 

But seriously... How do you deal with waiting rooms at the pead's clinic?




  

Friday 9 January 2015

A quick thank you......

So I don't know about you but I suck at New Years resolutions.... I can never make them and if by some strange chance I do, I definitely cannot keep them!!!! 

Also I am not very good at seeing the brighter side of things.... I know you all will laugh.... Most people who know me, know me as a positive person.... But still my first thought of things is how they could go wrong... Till my sunshine side takes over.... 

So today I have decided to simply let only my sunshine side take over... And rather than making plans for the future I'm going to do a quick thank you list for the last year....

Last year was a good year... A year I was very happy with.... Because finally I stepped up... I made things happen... As did my darling hubby.... We made changes to our lives that needed changes... Rather than just plan them....

1. To start with I'm happy to have shifted back to Bombay. 

2. Aadi got a job he loves...doing what he loves....

3. As did I.... Broke down all my self made barriers.... Sifted thru all the things I don't want to do and came up with all the things I love to do and I'm now doin them.... 

4. Put Siddy in a good school.... The fact that he loves it is an added bonus! 

5. My brother got married so our little family just got bigger.... And then they added more good news so more yayie!!!! Plus he started his own store a long awaited dream come true! 

6. Mum did her first Dubai show and it was a success..... !! 

7. Aadi's parent have come to visit twice and it's been amazing!!! Also I have been to Jaipur twice already! The best part was Siddy didn't take a second to switch from both homes... He was as easy and comfortable as ever!!! Also we all went on our first family vacation to Dubai which was a blast!!! 

8. Siddy is making full sentences and is understanding and reacting to things we say....that kid is the best time pass in the world! 

9. We are happy and healthy... ( ok maybe not entirely healthy these last few days but then it's the new year so it doesn't count!!!) but whole of last year was good health wise...  !!! 

10. I've learnt a lot of things about myself this last year.... About how much stronger I am and can be... About how awkward and socially demented I can be!!!  And yet about how much I love meeting new people.... Just one at a time would be good!!!

So yeah all in all a good year..... 

Hope this year matches it and ups the game as well!!! 




Monday 5 January 2015

Your kids - your witness!

On humans of New York there was this one guy who said he and his wife had chosen not to have kids... And lots of his friends thought he was being selfish... But this guy was very clear that of all the things he wanted to accomplish in his life having a kid wasn't one of them... And of course he ended saying that post a couple of drinks all his daddy friends would tell him how much they envied his freedom. 

Such a debatable post no? 

At one level I can fully understand this not wanting to have a baby anymore thing... It's funny because I have one.. And I always wanted one... Not in the way where I would goo goo ga ga over babies and baby clothes when I was young... But just as something I knew when I met Aadi.. When I met him marriage and creating something that was part him part me made sense...

But strangely I feel young couples today aren't ready for that kind of commitment or don't feel the need for it...in fact I feel
Most of them can't even handle a marriage let alone a baby. 

And it's ok... At some level... Better maybe at most...the last thing that is ok is to have a kid to save your marriage or as a last attempt to get your partner to stay with you...so maybe it's better these couples don't have kids early on...

Also the decision to have the kid has to be a very sure well thought of decision and not just giving into parental and societal pressures... 

Life really isn't about college job marriage baby.... These things are great and eventually help you build a strong personal support in life if you do it right...but if you do it because your parents insisted or your friends told you its a must.. It could end up being a bad idea...

I never tell friends who are married but don't have kids to have kids... And definitely not if they haven't asked... 

Recently I met a friend she was married for about four maybe five years... Both her and her husband have great jobs and they are very happy together... I haven't asked why, but they don't have any kids yet.. And she's really good with kids... She loved mine and he loved her... And at this one point in the evening I nearly said to her " you're so good with kids when you going to have your own?" But I stopped myself...

I'm sure she must get it a lot from her family from her husbands family... She hardly needed it from me..

Also I remember Aadi would always tell me... It seems like married couples always tell unmarried couples to get married by saying negative things about marriage " get married then see if she lets you go out with the guys" " get married then see if he buys you gifts" 

Similarly mums tell newly married girls to have a baby by highlighting all the negatives... Sometimes what's worse is when they fudge over the negatives completly and make it sound like a walk in the clouds... 

It's great but it's tough is what I always say.. Just so long as you walk into it with your eyes open...

I thinks it's fine not to have kids altogether... But at the same time i feel a time will come when you're much older.. When you're done with all your music and vacationing and "finding" your true self.... When maybe your partner isn't there anymore because they found them selves someplace else... When you might maybe just regret the decision... 

Because at the end of the day, like Susan Sarandon said in 'shall we dance'

 Beverly Clark: We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things... all of it, all of the time, every day. You're saying 'Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness'."

I feel the same with kids... At some point it's nice to have them to tell your stories to.. To have them tell their kids stories about you.. That's how you live on right?

So i don't know..debatable but still an easy choice for me!!!


Sunday 4 January 2015

Being adorable!

Last month has been so busy... That honestly I haven't had the time to breathe.. Let alone blog...!!

And I miss it.. I miss it so much... Because right now at this insanely adorable age that this bumling is in there is just so much to write about! 

So now we have complete sentences.. 

"Siddy wants watermelon juice"!!! 

His longest sentence ever!!! 

But what's more amazing than that is the fact that he listens to what you tell him analyses it and then responds to it... 

I don't know man sometimes for a less than two year old its kinda spooky!!! 

But even more than that it's his ability to understand things.. To differentiate between things....

The other day he found a crayon.. Looked around for someplace to draw ... His drawing book was hidden under his other books..

So I tell him " siddy go get your drawing book" 

I didn't really think he could tell the difference ... But what do you know.. He picks up all the other books, puts them aside and gets his drawing book! 

He loves standing on my feet.. And by standing I mean crushing my toes ... And honestly I know he's a baby and all but sometimes it's just really pissing off... 

So the other day i was watching TV and he's standing in front of me with his back to me and he's watching TV too.. When suddenly he steps back and not only stamps on my toe... In his lame attempt to get off he crushes it nice and good ... 

So I screamed out in pain .... He turns around oblivious for a second.. Sees me hold my foot and says " Mumma got boo boo?" 

"Yes" I say with gritting my teeth...

Next thing you know he's rubbing my feet with his super tiny fingers saying 
"pari pari" 

And he asks me " better Mumma?" 

Like how? How can I get mad at that?!!!

And how? How did he react like that? Like a grown up? Like a very adorable sensitive grown up?!!!! 

It's amazing how much his little mind is grasping... How much its understanding... That tiny little baby of mine... He's fast growing.. And in the right direction don't you think?!!!