Tuesday 4 November 2014

Two problems!!

Siddy is a very gently kid... Quiet most of the times, plays on his own, hardly every throws a tantrum... 

Has learnt to say his thank you-s and good nights, is pleasant to everyone he meets, shakes their hands...

He loves school and in school though he prefers doing his own thing he listens to his teacher more often than not.. And if not it's not in a very loud angry way but just quietly chooses to do his own thing over what the other kids are doing..

So two things are bothering me today..

One: he startles easy... Too easy. 

When he was a baby it was the usual suspects, mixers and cookers, so I didn't worry too much...

But now a days even the slightest loud sound shakes him... He actually jumps when he hears a old auto trying to start up or if a tire bursts... While I understand these are loud disturbing sounds...

I've noticed he also gets freaked out when two people talk in loud tones...even if they aren't fighting...for example I was throwing away his minion party decor today because it was simply lying around catching dust... But my brother in law who is a big minion fan stopped me because he wanted to save them.. So very jokingly we were having a little tussle and I was laughing out loud saying 'why you wanna hang on to this junk' but he wouldn't listen and out of nowhere we hear siddy howling....like full blown howling... Both of us had to go to him and hug him and and give each other a hug in front of him and finally he was ok... 

He didn't like that we could be fighting.. For that matter anyone fighting or getting angry he can't handle it...

I remember even when papa would threaten Mylo with a rolled up newspaper as a baby he would start to cry...

He's super sensitive which is sweet but sometimes I feel it's not all good... He needs to toughen up...

On the flip side to this coin is problem number two:

So recently he had a play date with a rough and tough kid... The kid is a few months younger but is generally kinda loud and rough... 

And our man didn't like it one bit! 

So when the baby came home he immediately went for the car in siddy's hand... His mum felt bad so she gave siddy one of his cars.. But before siddy could play the kid had taken over both cars... 

Now that's normal a lot of kids are like that.. But siddy couldn't understand why he had lost out on both cars!! 

Thru the night, while the other kid played with siddy's cars, he made attempts to get to that kids car.. But each time he got close the kid would shout out... And this little child of mine would jump out of his skin... He would get so scared he would drop the car and come running to me and hide...

Anyway.. We met the same little kiddo a few days later.. And when that kid walked in siddy was holding his little car.. Immediately be hands his car to me points to my bag and says " Mumma, put it in" !!!! 

That day siddy was better, he played around in the bed with the other kid but the last shrill scream and he started to howl!! 

My poor friend felt horrible.. But it's really not anyone's fault.. All kids are different and that's a good thing.. Because each gets to learn from the other..

Except that siddy learnt a little too much..

So the second problem isn't his being scared of the kid.. It's his emulating the kid.. 

We now have a loud bratty siddy... Who throws his toys.. Shouts out loud and even whacks me on my face when he gets angry. 

I'm not saying all of this just started... It had started when he started school or maybe is an age thing... The ever dreaded terrible twos... But man.. Its tough...

So he gets timeouts..everytime he shouts or throws or hits he is taken into another room and put into a corner for a few minutes while I tell him that what he did was wrong. 

I remember a few weeks ago when I had punished him, he had felt really bad and had sat down in the corner.. But today there was only a look of rebelliousness in his eyes... He looked up at me smirking...

Sheesh... I have never seen a naughtier kid...

So it's really a double problem from two ends of the spectrum...

On how to make a gentle kid ok with loud noises and two how to make a bratty kid.... Well... Gentle?!!!!!!!!!



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