Post work time!

I'm There are days I'm sooooo exhausted with siddy I can't wait for Aadi to come and take him off my hands...

Mum too.. We are tired running behind him feeding him keeping him entertained! 

So when Aadi comes we both sit back.. Put our feet up and won't even get up to get the wipes when he is changing his diaper!!! 

I'm sure lots of women are like that... And even if the poor guy has been out and about at work it doesn't matter... Post work time for him is also post work time for you .. Only difference is your day job is the munchkin and that's his fun time!! 

And luckily Aadi loves that time .. He looks forward to it...

So he'll come back and siddy will follow him around while he changes puts his shoes away and comes back into the living room...

Then the two of them sit down on the floor and start!! 

Every car will come out... All types of blocks will come out... He will want Aadi to push him around on his little truck... They will play with the football... And sit and chat with each other...  

Siddy's favorite expression when Aadi come is "le go papa" which means "let's go papa" and he expects Aadi to give up everything to go play with him!!!

Well mama approves baby boy... Le go papa.. While mama rests up!! 

Love what I do!

When I share a picture or a video of Siddhant it isn't to get the likes and comments and sit back and feel all smug...

It's isn't to say to the world ' look how cute my kid is' 

This blog or my facebook Instagram pages have nothing to do with wanting to 'show off' the bumling. 

It isn't that I don't have a sense of a personal space or wish to make my life an open book...

It all started with being amazed.. Amazed at the tiny - ness of this miracle that was placed in my arms on feb 22 2013. 

And of the magic that followed every day since. 

Of being witness to a person growing up.. Of you being the one person that little thing has his utmost trust in... Whom he loves unconditionally... No questions asked...

I was amazed by it all.. Every time he blinked his eyes, or responded to my voice before he could even talk or make a sound, every time he tried to roll over or reached out for his toys...

I was amazed...

Amazed that something that grew in my tummy... that kicked me and curled up inside me...was out here smiling at me and hugging me and kissing me...

and i couldn't stop sharing it with everyone!

Im not a people's person... most people who know me know this... I'm actually quite reserved when i meet people, unless I instantly like you...  And then I don't just like you I love you.... but otherwise I take my time to warm up with people...

But this miracle of life... its made me a people's person... he's made me want to stand up high on a cliff and shout out to every one every time he does something maddeningly adorable...but instead of a cliff I choose social platforms on the internet!!!

Also i feel being a mum is a very tough thing to be... because just by being one you actually have to become a hundred things at one time... a mum, a cook, a maid, a joker, a singer, a doctor, a child, a teacher, a friend to name a few.... you have to know more than you can think of knowing, you have to understand the fine line between being paranoid and being carefree, you have to be strict and fun in one go...

its too much too soon...

no matter how much you prepare and read and 'study' before becoming a mum... everything goes out the window the day that bumling is placed in your uncertain arms... and suddenly you know what it is to feel immense fear and love!!

so while this blog is to document the amazement i feel every time i look at bumling do something new... its also to put down things i have learnt and experienced for new mums to read and feel a sense of community a sense of not being alone in this mad journey...

While i do enjoy and love the love i feel from everyone who likes my posts and comments on my bumling's funny pictures ( to whom I want to say thank you) to anyone who feels its too much... please happily click on the unfollow button!!!

Mumma put it in!!

A little note on how quick the little bumling is growing...

So remember the kid I spoke about the other day who came to visit us and took siddy's toy... But wouldn't share..

I'm not judging... He was a baby... So it's all cool...

But what's amazing is this:

We went to visit them a few days later... And when we reached, the other baby wasn't home... So siddy was in a good mood... Playing performing and all... 

Full on ' do your happy face ' and he'd smile , 'do your angry face ' and out came this big frown!!! 

Then while we ate the bazillion things my aunt had made for us he played with his cars...

So he has this car in his hand and he's driving it on the sofa..

And in walks the other kid...

siddy comes towards me, looks at the kid, looks at me , points to my purse and gives me his car and says 

" Mumma put it in" 

One: that's a full sentence so yayie!!! 

And two: how did this 21 month old not only remember the kid, remember what happened last time, and gave me his car for safe keeping?!!!!

It's something amazing no? 

I thought so...

This bumling is just getting bigger and bigger smarter and smarter and more and more amazing!! 

Of course later the two were fully playing jumpy jumpy on the bed!!! 

But it's amazing to see him grow! 

An update!

Posts are really getting fewer and more far inbetween... And I'm hating that...

I keep making little notes on my phone about all the fun topics I want to blog about.. But time just seems to be flying at a super sonic speed!! 

This last week back has been my craziest ever... Yes I know I say that often.. But it truly has been..

We were back from Jaipur Sunday night.. Monday I had a meeting in bandra.. Then I spent the day looking for furniture for my brothers new store..

Tuesday : worked on my art work for a birthday that happened today.. Went for a meeting too..

Wednesday: was at the printer practically the whole day.. Though my morning was fun.. We had a mommy baby day at school and siddy and I had a blast!!

Thursday: had two meeting plus helped the brother again...

Friday: started assembling 100 plates 100 napkin/spoon and forks 200 bottles .. With a lotta  help from the mommy..

Saturday : party setup...

And come tomorrow we are doing a small workshop at Nido's!! 

So as you can see it's been mental!! 

And in all this the bumling is growing at  super sonic speed too.. He's got taller and way more talkative... He imitates everything you do or say.. 

He's become a boy with scratches on his knees and lesser inclined to getting sloppy kisses!! 

He's also fast becoming a rascal.. A spoilt mind of my own rascal !! 

It's funny to see this already at 21 months... Thought I still had four months!!! 

Ah well! 

Two problems!!

Siddy is a very gently kid... Quiet most of the times, plays on his own, hardly every throws a tantrum... 

Has learnt to say his thank you-s and good nights, is pleasant to everyone he meets, shakes their hands...

He loves school and in school though he prefers doing his own thing he listens to his teacher more often than not.. And if not it's not in a very loud angry way but just quietly chooses to do his own thing over what the other kids are doing..

So two things are bothering me today..

One: he startles easy... Too easy. 

When he was a baby it was the usual suspects, mixers and cookers, so I didn't worry too much...

But now a days even the slightest loud sound shakes him... He actually jumps when he hears a old auto trying to start up or if a tire bursts... While I understand these are loud disturbing sounds...

I've noticed he also gets freaked out when two people talk in loud tones...even if they aren't fighting...for example I was throwing away his minion party decor today because it was simply lying around catching dust... But my brother in law who is a big minion fan stopped me because he wanted to save them.. So very jokingly we were having a little tussle and I was laughing out loud saying 'why you wanna hang on to this junk' but he wouldn't listen and out of nowhere we hear siddy howling....like full blown howling... Both of us had to go to him and hug him and and give each other a hug in front of him and finally he was ok... 

He didn't like that we could be fighting.. For that matter anyone fighting or getting angry he can't handle it...

I remember even when papa would threaten Mylo with a rolled up newspaper as a baby he would start to cry...

He's super sensitive which is sweet but sometimes I feel it's not all good... He needs to toughen up...

On the flip side to this coin is problem number two:

So recently he had a play date with a rough and tough kid... The kid is a few months younger but is generally kinda loud and rough... 

And our man didn't like it one bit! 

So when the baby came home he immediately went for the car in siddy's hand... His mum felt bad so she gave siddy one of his cars.. But before siddy could play the kid had taken over both cars... 

Now that's normal a lot of kids are like that.. But siddy couldn't understand why he had lost out on both cars!! 

Thru the night, while the other kid played with siddy's cars, he made attempts to get to that kids car.. But each time he got close the kid would shout out... And this little child of mine would jump out of his skin... He would get so scared he would drop the car and come running to me and hide...

Anyway.. We met the same little kiddo a few days later.. And when that kid walked in siddy was holding his little car.. Immediately be hands his car to me points to my bag and says " Mumma, put it in" !!!! 

That day siddy was better, he played around in the bed with the other kid but the last shrill scream and he started to howl!! 

My poor friend felt horrible.. But it's really not anyone's fault.. All kids are different and that's a good thing.. Because each gets to learn from the other..

Except that siddy learnt a little too much..

So the second problem isn't his being scared of the kid.. It's his emulating the kid.. 

We now have a loud bratty siddy... Who throws his toys.. Shouts out loud and even whacks me on my face when he gets angry. 

I'm not saying all of this just started... It had started when he started school or maybe is an age thing... The ever dreaded terrible twos... But man.. Its tough...

So he gets timeouts..everytime he shouts or throws or hits he is taken into another room and put into a corner for a few minutes while I tell him that what he did was wrong. 

I remember a few weeks ago when I had punished him, he had felt really bad and had sat down in the corner.. But today there was only a look of rebelliousness in his eyes... He looked up at me smirking...

Sheesh... I have never seen a naughtier kid...

So it's really a double problem from two ends of the spectrum...

On how to make a gentle kid ok with loud noises and two how to make a bratty kid.... Well... Gentle?!!!!!!!!!

Like father like son!!

The first time I heard Aadi speak in his sleep was nearly ten years ago... He had knocked out on my couch and I was,well, chatting with an ex- who was a just a friend then!! 

It was extremely awkward because in the middle of my conversation suddenly I hear Aadi .. I jumped out of my skin!!! 

But it was all gibberish interspersed with his brother, Nitinbh's, name! 

Over the years I have had many such night time experiences... Apparently he even sleep walked as a kid... Luckily not any more!!! 

Well, so the story is a like father like son story!! 

The other night, the monkey went to sleep... I was reading a book and just as I lay down, his hand went up in the air and he shook it around and said "coming Mumma coming" and then he started rubbing his eyes and eventually started crying... 

This coming Mumma coming is a iPad thing.. When videos on YouTube are loading I need him to have some patience so I've taught him that it's coming wait...so he gestures to wait with his little hand and says coming Mumma coming!!! 

I guess at night he was watching videos so his tiny little subconscious picked it up!!! My poor baby..

After that night I hide the iPad at night... Don't need the extra brain activity kicking up! 

But imagine... How like his daddy he is!!! 

It's super cute if you ask me!!